When someone gets engaged, friends and family are quick to offer advice and suggestions on how you and your spouse to be could do this and do that, etc. As a recently engaged gal I have been lucky enough to receive some of this wisdom. I got everything from the best recipes to keep a happy husband to exclamations from my grandmother that she can finally stop worrying that I will be alone. I am 24 years old. One nugget I did not expect or ever think of was that your spouse has to be the most important relationship in your life. This was most surprising. I was confused and concerned about that amount of weight given to one relationship. How could I give myself so completely to one person? It is frightening to make yourself that vulnerable. It took a while for this to sink and the more I thought about it the more it made sense. The person you marry, the person you are vowing to spend the rest of your life with, the person you will wake up next to everyday has to be the single most important person. Coming from a girl who has always depended on her family to be the backbone and center of the relationship world, I wondered if I was going to be able to transition. I began thinking of my fiance and the life we currently have together. Things such as there is no place I would rather be, ever, than with him ran through my head. Also that I would do anything to spend five minutes with him was something else I thought of. Maybe there was hope for me after all. I do tend to leap with my eyes closed and I was getting worried that I wouldn’t be able to have the right mentality to give this marriage all it deserves. However, I know that I am marrying the absolute best man I have ever met and he would be the only person I trust to hold on to this hot mess. So cheers, and here is to change and happiness. Oh yeah, and gifts. Thanks in advance.